These last few days have hit me where it hurts. No not literally (that’d be everywhere) but figuratively. 2014 just keeps on coming at me, yet I am adamant after the next few days of down time I will be back swinging.

Before I continue I want to put a disclaimer out as the events relate to other people in my life and by no means do I want to upset them by sharing but if I don’t get this out now I may ruin this coming Mothers Day weekend.

A friend emailed me yesterday morning to chat to me about how they have been overcoming a failed suicide attempt. They were glad I had kept in touch with them but felt they could not open up to anyone when they had been in trouble. Yet we had been communicating that whole time ad I had missed it. It’s a common thing for people to miss it apparently, and I was sick myself, but when you hear this stuff you still feel bad.

Yesterday I had a conversation with another friend who emphatically and passionately told all these reasons why “If there’s only one thing I do in life it should be to give birth to my own child. It will make my life complete in a way nothing else will.”

Yep. Thanks. o_O

I also cut my thumb in half last night. It hurt. A lot.

I was distracted yesterday through all this and forgot to take my Propanolol. So today I have been sitting in Migraine City, forecast pain with a chance of aura.

At uni I caught up with a friend I haven’t had much time to chat with lately. He informed me he was dropping out of the theatre performance we are both in as he wouldn’t be able to make it. When I cautiously asked him why he just said, “I have Glaucoma and it’s bad. They’re taking out one of my eyes.”

Invisible illness strikes again in an otherwise healthy 21-year-old.

I also have 2 close friends recovering from recent traumatic abuse experiences and a friend slowly succumbing to melanoma in his brain.

At the moment I feel like I am wading through half-set concrete and if I don’t keep hold of  my positive mindset things could get bad. I know these issues don’t affect me directly, but some days you just want to give the universe the finger and sing in French.

(If you don’t understand this song by Camille, Ta Douleur, translates to “I will take your pain”)


  1. breakdownchick 06/05/2014 at 8:10 pm

    Hope today is a better day for you!

  2. spencersamalvin 06/05/2014 at 9:00 pm

    Wow, Jessica, that’s tough stuff you’re going through & that your friends around you are going through . . . I feel for everyone you’ve mentioned including you of course as I am going through my own personal hell right now with the break up of my 30 year marriage, along with my only (adult) child’s estrangement from me which has a lot to do with her getting caught in the middle of the fray & miscommunication between her Mom & me. Also, I suffer from bipolar disorder, though I wasn’t diagnosed with that until roughly a month ago, so there were quite a few years, really decades, that I wasn’t getting the treatment I needed. Needless to say, I am really struggling & suffering right now, and just doing the best I can to hang on. Though I am committed to not harming myself, I must say that I’ve never felt worse & am doing my best to reach out for the help of friends, family, & professionals during this time. Paradoxically, reading your entry above makes me feel more normal & less of a stuck out thumb . . . there’s something about one person in a painful situation relating to another in a like situation that can provide a kind of hope, sort of like going to an AA mtg.- oh, I forgot to mention that I’m also a recovering alcoholic . . . anyway, Jessica, thank you for your entry & your blog in general . . . you have helped me today simply by being honest about what you & your friends are going through . . am sending out positive vibes to you & them . . Sam

    • jessieefrost 06/05/2014 at 9:52 pm

      Thanks Sam, I started my blog to talk out my troubles with my illness and because it’s given me a new perspective on how people interact in such a superficial way. Society has taught us to hold in our feelings and not talk about personal troubles, yet with the distancing increasing tenfold in the social media and new technology life we lead everyone is an island unto themselves. The best way to overcome illness, I believe, is to know you aren’t alone and to let others know you are vulnerable and you need help. Breaking through that first barrier, much like AA, is asking for help and admitting you feel isolated. I’m glad you don’t harm yourself, I’m sorry to hear what you are going through and I hope you find a great strength in the long term. In the short term I hope these steps you take to overcome your troubles bring you help each day. You aren’t alone 🙂

  3. spencersamalvin 07/05/2014 at 2:34 am

    Thanks, Jessica, I believe you’re “right on” target . . . I can tell that you’ve gained much wisdom through your own & your friends’ experiences . . . I will definitely stay tuned . . .

  4. Catherine 17/05/2014 at 9:53 pm

    Keep up your positive attitude!!! 🙂 Enjoy your weekend!

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